[Solved] Asking for help  


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21/05/2018 8:33 pm  

I wasn't sure where to post this topic so apologies if it's not relevant in this section!

From my own experiences and from many other people who have suffered from mental health problems, one of the hardest things to do was to ask for help. So I just wanted to try and explain why it's so important. 

In our community, the typical stereotype is the more help you reject the more of a sher/sherni you are. We've all been there, even if it's a little thing with thinking you can carry a heavy item on your own. But as minor as that is, this stereotype can be detrimental if you're always rejecting help, especially when it comes to your mental health. As Sikhs we're so used to giving, but somebody once told me that it's just as important to receive. When we're at the Gurdwara, we will happily eat the langar we're given. So I ask us all, let's break the stereotype that receiving help for your mental health is 'weak'! Asking for help is one of the bravest decisions you make. It takes true strength to show your vulnerabilities and admit that you need help. 

Ask your friends, ask your family, ask your uni, ask your work, ask your GP. You will be surprised what you receive back and you'll realise how many others suffered in silence. Remember that their experiences can help you!

As well as this, going to the a professional therapist is one of the best things you can do. They are fully experienced and will help you understand your triggers/thoughts/emotions. Take note that everyone is different, so one type of therapy may work for one person but not for another. Also, it might take you a while to find a therapist that you click with but do give them a chance!  With all the support that you accept and receive you WILL make a recovery and will get better.


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30/05/2018 11:20 pm  

Hi Gindy, 

Thank you for your post and sharing your personal experiences, much appreciated. This will for sure encourage others to reach out for help. 

Totally agree with all that you have said. Asking for help is actually the strongest thing anyone can do. Together we will break down the stigma in our community!

If you don't mind me asking, and only if you are comfortable to share, what is the biggest stigma you faced, how did you overcome this and how did you reach out for help?